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How to Love a Man Without Being Sexual

It’s possible to love a man without being sexual. Say what, I grappled with this problem for over twenty years and discovered the answer. And no it’s not through his stomach so hold the biscuits and gravy.

How to Love a Man Without Being Sexual – a blog post to answer my daughter’s comment on Why Doesn’t My Mom Love Me.” She was interested to know how to love a man without being sexual.

The Lie Woman Believe

The biggest lie we woman believe is that being sexual and physically intimate with a man equals love to a man.

In believing this lie, we ultimately place our value and worth in our bodies. We crave feelings and pleasing our man to the fullest extent is a constant desire.

Then to make matters worse, the media feeds into our sexual desires with ways to become more desirable to men. Ways to knock a man’s socks off using makeup, sexy undergarments and sexy lingerie (I have a humorous story about sexy lingerie, perhaps I’ll be courageous and share it one day). And don’t forget the jewelry and high heel shoes.

Shopping Trip!

The problem is even though this can be fun for a moment.

It does not equal love to a man. It’s sex.

More importantly.

Your value as a woman to a real man is “not” in your body.

Your value as a woman to a real man is “found” in your loving heart.

What is Love to a Man

I believed this lie for years because“no one told me the truth.”

I lacked the knowledge necessary to discern what genuine love was to a man. Was clueless that men and woman think, experience and express feelings differently. I had no idea a man can have sex with you and not be in love with you. I believed sexual pleasure was love.

WOW!

REALLY!

Yup!

The truth hurts and then it helps you heal.

The moment I began to understand the truth; I stopped placing value in my body and having casual sex with men who couldn’t cherish me.

How I learn to Love a Man Without Being Sexual

The go-to guy!

Joe Amoia at gpsforlove.com

I was a real mess and a lady in distress when I found Joe’s website and video blogs several years ago. Joe has helped me understand men, dating, and relationships. And that is the key to finding out how to love a man without being sexual.

We must begin by learning to understand men, dating, and relationships. Not all relationship advice is worth listing to or following. Joe’s advice works.

I’m proof!

Read the post “How Men Show They Are in Love.”

The best advice I can give is to visit Joe’s website, signup for his newsletter and view his video blogs. Get involved with his community and learn how to love a man without being sexual.

I learned love is an action with an ability to carry through on a continuous basis. Love is in the moments you share with one another. It’s building a stable relationship on trust and loving devotion to helping one another through life’s struggles.

Love is something that grows over time and continues to develop and matures with age. It’s always given away to others, not obtained from another person. And when a person doesn’t cherish and value themselves and others, they won’t have the ability to give or receive love.

By Linda M Carleton

Linda is an adult survivor of child abuse and domestic violence. She was rescued by God at a mission in Oakland, California in 1991. Linda writes to share personal insights and lessons learned. To advocate and be a voice for the voiceless. And shine a light of hope into the darkness so abuse survivors can see the glory of God’s life-restoring grace. She lives in a small town in Upstate, New York. And enjoys studying the Bible, and listening to blues and gospel music.

3 replies on “How to Love a Man Without Being Sexual”

Another thought to share about love. The main reason I learned how to give love away has been through serving others. The Lord directed me into a profession of helping and serving others as a CNA/HHA back in the early nineties. I have been helping others in the health care field for over twenty years. In that time, I’ve learned how to have compassion, empathy, and mercy for others. I’ve cared for a great generation of people who had morals and values. Over the years, they have shared stories and memoires of the good times and the bad. The Lord used those individuals to teach me about loving and serving others. And that’s what life is all about, loving and serving others. I became tired of serving others and now find myself serving others in a different way. Serving deli meat and delivering papers on the weekend. God’s gift is God’s gift 🙂

Linda, You have an outstanding ministry of service to others, but the greatest gift that you can give to anyone, man or women, is the love of God in Jesus. It is the sharing of this love between a man and women in a committed marital relationship that gives their union a divine quality that is far more permanent and enriching than just the physical joys of sharing erotic sensations. The “best way to love a man without being sexual” is to share Jesus with him; and this is also the best way to love a woman.

Bob, I agree with your statement 100%. Sharing the love of God in Jesus with others should be our number one priority. God is the author and perfector of love. Jesus is the reason we know how to genuinely love and serve others. Thank You, Linda.

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