Welcome, I’m Linda, an abuse survivor, mother, professional caregiver, christian, and writer. I live in the Schoharie Valley in upstate New York.
I write about overcoming adverse childhood experiences, and childhood trauma. And guide you in understanding the past, so you can reclaim your life.
If you’re struggling to overcome childhood adversity, odds are, you may be;
- Suppressing childhood trauma by keeping painful secrets.
- Making poor decisions.
- Repeating unhealthy patterns of behavior.
- Living in fear, guilt, or shame.
- Struggling with forgiveness.
You can learn more by reading the blog. Read by topic with the “Blog” drop-down menu or select a post of interest on the Site Map page.
To learn about my adverse childhood experiences continue reading.
How I Overcame Adverse Childhood Experiences
I grew up in the Adirondack Mountains in upstate New York.
My father was an excellent provider for his wife and nine children. He toiled long hours at the International Paper Mill. And planted and harvested vegetable gardens and gathered firewood. But uncontrolled lust destroyed everything he worked for, his family.
Our family secret became public knowledge in ninth grade. That’s when dad fled into the woods to commit suicide with a chainsaw and knife. Afterward, the courts removed him from the home and sentenced him to jail on weekends.
He lived down the street from my High School. And my mom stood by him, spending free time at his apartment and playing bingo.
At fifteen, I became the mother of three younger siblings. And my hostility for her neglect grew into bitterness, and anger raged until my brother’s death.
At sixteen, I started engaging in casual sex and drinking with friends. I got pregnant in eleventh grade and dropped out of school to get married. And after three and one-half years of domestic violence, I ran in fear for my life, giving up two loved children.
Suppressing Childhood Trauma
Past memories came rushing back like a violent tidal wave, and the emotional wall surrounding my heart shattered into a million pieces.
That evening, I huddled on the living room floor of a new apartment and wailed for over an hour. Heartbroken, I could feel the pain and anguish of adversity and grieve the loss of two children.
In the summer of 2013, the Holy Spirit spoke to my heart.
Come into the full light, let your inner beauty and strength shine through. Use the gifts I’ve given you. Do not hide away in dismay. You are created in Our image, after Our likeness, and blessed. I love you the way you are, flaws and all.
I answered the call using the gifts of website design.
Pushing past my fear of the public eye, I created a blog and started writing. As a result, I began to understand past events, and dysfunctional mindsets, how beliefs govern your behaviors, and personal choices.
Life Lessons Learned
After years of suffering, I’ve learned, it’s dangerous to keep secrets because they prevent you from going forward. Likewise, stuffing memories and raw emotions into a skeleton closet obstruct the light of truth from shining.
I’ve also learned iniquity engulfs your mind and infuses your heart. And furthermore, living in darkness, you become tormented with emotional pain and mental anguish.
Plagued by sin, you become fearful and experience overwhelming guilt and shame.
But don’t lose hope.
You need not suffer in silence or fight to survive alone.
I’ve learned you can trust the God of Abraham, Isaac, and Jacob to establish and ground and strength and settle you. And when you walk by faith, believing in Jesus Christ for the forgiveness of your sins. He will clean you from iniquity and eliminate the fear, guilt, and shame.
And after you have suffered a little while, the God of all grace [Who imparts all blessing and favor], Who has called you to His [own] eternal glory in Christ Jesus, will Himself complete and make you what you ought to be, establish and ground you securely, and strengthen, and settle you. 1 Peter 5:10 Amplified Bible
Above all, in Jesus Christ, by the power of the Holy Spirit, you will overcome adversity and restore your life. But you must take the first step.