I’m Linda M Carleton, an abuse survivor, advocate and writer who helps victims overcome adversity. And renew dysfunctional mindsets and gain freedom so you can live an abundant life.
I’m fifty-three and live in upstate New York.
I’ve trained and worked as a professional caregiver for twenty-three years. And during those years, God worked on cleansing my heart of iniquity, transforming my mind and created a new person.
I didn’t recognize it was happening.
But the proof is clear in the way my life turned around.
God equipped me to raise two children successfully and broke the patterns of adversity or sin that plagued my childhood and young adult life.
I no longer walk in the darkness with fear and carry the burdens of guilt and shame. I write on this blog to help others who suffer from adversity do the same.
How I Overcame Adversity
I grew up in a dysfunctional family in the foothills of the Adirondack Mountains. On vast woodland once owned by my grandparents Willard and Maude Carleton. It was a place of natural beauty, exploration, child abuse, and childhood trauma.
We got picked on in school. I never understood why until our family secret became public. That’s when dad fled into the woods to commit suicide with a chainsaw and knife.
After he failed, the courts charged him with child sexual abuse, and removed him from the house. He got sentenced to jail on weekends and lived in town down the street from the High School.
My mom stood by him. Spent free time with him, playing bingo and neglected four young children. At fifteen, I became the mother to three younger siblings. And the fierce battle between us heated up.
It raged until my brother’s death in June of 2014.
My parents built the foundation for adult life. And living in dysfunction and enduring maltreatment became a way of life. But, I didn’t recognize patterns of behavior or understand the encompassing darkness until age forty-six.
The Illumination of Darkness
In the summer of 2013, amid intense suffering, the Lord spoke.
Come into the full light; let your inner beauty and strength shine through. Use the gifts I’ve given you. Do not hide away or be dismayed. I created you in Our image, after Our likeness, and blessed you. I love you the way you are, flaws and all.
You can read Jesus is Calling to learn more.
The call was answered by using the gifts of website design.
Pushing past my fear of the public eye, I created a blog. And started sharing my darkest secrets and personal testimony with the world.
And by the grace of God, I began to understand the past and overcome adversity.
God illuminated the darkness and chased away the fear .
After years of suffering, I’ve learned, keeping secrets stops you from moving forward. And stuffing raw emotions into a corner obstruct the light of truth from shining.
But don’t lose hope.
You don’t need to suffer in silence or fight to survive alone. You can trust the God of Abraham, Isaac, and Jacob to establish, ground, strengthen, and settle you.
And after you have suffered a little while, the God of all grace [Who imparts all blessing and favor], Who has called you to His [own] eternal glory in Christ Jesus, will Himself complete and make you what you ought to be, establish and ground you securely, and strengthen, and settle you. 1 Peter 5:10 Amplified Bible
And when you walk by faith, He will lift your heavy burdens and give you rest. In Christ, you will find the strength to overcome adversity and live an abundant life.